Pulse Blogger: This Thing called love

“I often wonder if people who claimed they cannot live without the other person were living on borrowed time after breakup.”

During a late night chat with a friend, we somehow ended up talking about how African parents chose to train their children. She said, “Somehow, in a way or the other, the kind of training we were brought up with and the kind of punishments that was melted out at us while growing up, somehow rendered us ‘emotionless’; somewhat incapable of love.” What can I say, my friends aren't regular: we don’t do normal. LOL.

What do youths want? In the past, it might have been safe to say youths were okay with marriage and being ‘successful’- as can be seen in the amount of farmlands they hoarded and wives they had, but not today; not anymore, things are not the same as they were, the larger percentage want sex and money; and quickly too; and more sex and more money, so it’s sort of okay to say this generation wants quickies.

Today’s generation find it easy to ‘fall in love’ and they often fall out of it as quickly as they are into it. I often wonder if people who claimed they cannot live without the other person were living on borrowed time after breakup. I mean hello… this person is someone you claimed is the 6 to your 5, so what happened to ‘together forever’.

I never understand how easily people go through relationships as quickly as they go through their underwear. Today they are all loved up with someone on their profile and tomorrow it’s another person. I mean, you are tattooing someone’s name on your body and the next day, you are doing a cover-up. When did this generation become so cynical? It’s almost as if the love runs along with the tears resulting from a ‘bad’ breakup; that’s if there were any tears.

Don’t even get me started on the money issue. I know some people who are actually into relationships which are not money based or money related in any way, but still suffer breakups. Maybe ‘suffer’ is a strong word as you’d hear people who once professed undying love for each other mutually agree to go their separate ways.

Just last week, I and a friend had gone to the cafeteria to get food and on our way out, right there in the middle of the place, a lady was screaming and crying and hugging this particular guy who was unflinching by the way, and she kept saying; “Tobi please don’t go. Don’t leave me.” I don’t care if he has money or if the dick is good, or both, please stop embarrassing the female gender I mentally screamed.

Don’t get me started on her loving him. Even with an ultimatum of six months or two years, that’s if she lasts that long, all those happy times begin to fade. Did I hear you say even six months is too much?

In this thing called love, do people really fall out of love for having not actually being in love in the first place, or love is just an exponentially increasing thing that gets better with each experience?

Written by Christiana Osun

Christiana is a lover of words. She's not just a reader, she's also a writer. She's sarcastic, fun loving, and a jack and master of most things creative. She has her website underway, so watch out.

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